Tips on dating single moms
(And weren’t you looking for someone who would be a great mother? She’s incredibly patient, but doesn’t have a lot of tolerance for bad behavior. Sure, after some of our marriages and relationships have dissolved, we may be lonely and wanting sex and companionship.But that's anyone who has gone through a big breakup or divorce.Passion gets confused with love and it's easy to get swept away in a relationship that might ultimately be wrong for you. A new relationship can feel like a breath of fresh air and it's easy to want the relationship to develop at a fast pace.If your new man isn't willing to wait, then he will have little patience for anything else. Give yourself time to really get to know this new man.
It's fine to talk about your kids, but keep it to a minimum. It's a good idea to keep your dates private until things start to get serious.At the end of the day, we are self-sufficient and aren't looking for heroes, but for a partner who can pull his or her own weight. We are not sitting around pondering our social lives every second. Keep it, because most likely, it took work for us to make the date happen.Our kids cannot watch themselves, unless they're old enough and able.These tips can help you get started on the right foot... But this is your life and you are the one who gets to live it, not someone else. As a single mom, it's easy for your whole life to be wrapped up in your kids.If your kids are young, just imagine how many years you'll be out of the dating scene before they leave home. Don't expect your kids to be overjoyed when you first start dating. Explain that you love them, but you also like to spend time with your friends (just like they do). And as the adult, you get to make the decisions and not your kids. But they shouldn't be the main topic of conversation during your date.
Chrissy, the author, with her single mom friends, Jenn and Nat.